talk to me - Friday, June 2 2006
aah...the warm weather's shrunken back a bit, but carefree summer days loungin' at the beach are near. i kinda miss those endless summer nights hanging out, random fun (even the occasional hooliganism), seems like so long ago...
it's hard to find time/energy after work to enjoy what's out there; open water swims, biking through trails, hiking up the Grind, just to BE OUT THERE, wherever. i guess another part of it is not having someone readily available to do stuff w/ too; what w/ ppl so busy these days, plus not everyone really wants to do the same things. hmmmm, that gets me thinking...
i wonder what it is that attracts 2 people to each other? there are many theories i've heard/come across: physical attraction, common interests, perceived compatibility etc. but what makes 2 people just seem to "click"? i don't know for sure, but i think at least one thing that seems essential is that they should be able to talk. not just meaningless banter either, but the kind you actually enjoy.
it doesn't have to be thought-provoking/ground-breaking philosophy all the time...i mean, we could talk about "nothing" even...just so long as it's genuine, sincere conversation that facilitates sharing and the desire to get to know the other person more. some ppl i talk to are pretty "uninteresting"...and ok maybe it all depends on the circumstances/situation in which the conversation takes place...but still, i think it means a lot to me that we can just "talk".
words w/o action are meaningless when talking about getting things done/setting examples (this i Believe), but when it comes to two people getting to know each other i think conversation matters just as much as(if not more than) what they physically "do". they could go on dates, fill their time together w/ activity and entertainment etc. but at the end of the day; when the wine is gone, the music stops, the stage is empty, and the sun has set...will we still manage to have something interesting to say to one another? i hope so.
Talk is not cheap.
welp, that's all the seriousness i have in me for now. until next time...
(congratulations if you were nosey enough to read this =P) on the flip-side, there's the kind of connection you can have w/ someone where words are not necessary at all (i'm not talking wild hormones/monkey sex); you just get that spark when you look at them and you feel like you can just sit and stare at each other in silence for the longest time and walk away feeling like it was a great conversation. of course this comes w/ time and usu. AFTER a lot of talking has already taken place and you truly know/trust each other. like my grandparents did...the greatest example; my grandpa sitting for hours on end by my dying grandma's bedside, not saying a word, occasionally holding her hand and just sitting there to be w/ her. now there's Love in action. but that's a thought for next time...